Short Steps to Improving Your Relationships

Is there magic to what makes some relationships last longer than others? Maybe. Do some people just sit back and sulk, while others seem to let life go by right over their heads and problems? It sure seems so. Or maybe it’s just that some people learn secrets of success from their grandparents or other relatives or friends. And since the latter is probably more accurate, here are some tried and true tips from people who have enjoyed long, happy relationships.

1. DISAGREE – Agree that it’s okay to disagree on some issues, and leave it at that. No need to create a new religion or political movement just to appease both of you. You don’t HAVE to agree on everything. And you won’t. And that’s okay.

2. FUN – Couple tend to have fun on dates, then get married and too serious. Lighten up. Head to Yahoo Games (off Yahoo.com main site) and join in any number of card or other games. Or head to a local rental shop and rent an Xbox or other game player and some games.

3. REFRESH – Take time to look back, refresh your memories and share what brought you together. Especially when times are difficult, lean back and rely on these old memories as your foundation and glue yourselves back together with them (not literally, of course!)

4. SPACE – Give each other some space. Either you trust or you don’t. Get on with life, though. People need time alone and time with their mates and other friends. Be sure to give and take your fair share of space.

5. DATES – Keep dating each other. Even if life seems too busy, meet at the end of the evening for something light and easy, like viewing your favorite sitcom (record it if necessary) together or playing a game of Euchre.

6. MEMORIES – Make some together. Enjoy special moments, special anniversary dates and events. No need to be elaborate. For example, maybe you enjoyed watching a hot air balloon race one spring day. The next year, you might schedule time to watch it again. Make it an annual event. Collect postcards with balloons on the, playing cards, toss pillows…over time it becomes a theme.

7. FORGET – No need to “always” remember the bad things that happened during an argument. Actively “forget” sometimes. Be the first to apologize and make up. Go for it!

So don’t just sit back and sulk. Take short steps to improve your relationships and let life’s problems magically pass by while you hold on to your relationship.

7 Secrets of a Happy Marriage

Do you believe in falling in love? In finding that "special someone" who is your other half, your soulmate? Do you dream of finding the one person in all the world who will understand you, love you and be there for you, no matter what? If so, you're not alone. In fact, statistics show that about 90% of adults will get married at least once in their lives.

As a society, we've become so conditioned to the fairy tale of "Happily Ever After" that many people actually feel as if their life is lacking something if they're not a part of a couple.

But sadly, just like in the movies, most peoples' thoughts seem to stop at the part when the music swells and the happy couple says "I do" and loses themselves in that first magic kiss as husband and wife. They don't think about what happens after the honeymoon.

Considering that about 43% of all marriages in the U.S. ends in divorce, perhaps a class on the realities of building and maintaining a strong healthy marriage should become required before signing on the dotted line of a marriage license.

Having a happy marriage doesn't just happen by accident. It doesn't happen because you're "in love" or "perfect" for each other. Marriage is a partnership, and like any partnership, it takes commitment, dedication and hard work to help it to grow strong.

Here are some tips given by couples whose marriages are strong and healthy. Follow them, adapt them to work in your own marriage, and you'll be on your way to having what we all want -- a happy marriage!

1. Listen. It's a sad fact that we are often more polite to strangers than we are to the people we love the most. If your spouse is trying to talk to you, whether it's to find out what you want for dinner, to tell you about their day, or to discuss a problem in your marriage, give them the same courtesy you'd give a complete stranger, and LISTEN! Don't try to finish their sentences, don't try to solve their problems, and don't ever say, "I told you so!" Here's an especially apt poem, written by Ogden Nash:

To keep your marriage brimming,
With love in the wedding cup,
Whenever you’re wrong, admit it;
Whenever you’re right, shut up.

2. Communicate. It's important that you keep the lines of communication open. Especially when things go wrong. There are so many outside influences that can affect a marriage -- jobs, family, friends, hobbies, education, church. If you're suddenly not being able to spend time together, or you're fighting about money, it's especially important to talk about what's going on.

3. Go on a date. Couples who have been together for thirty, forty and even fifty years or more say that one of the things that has kept their marriage strong is going out on a "date" with their spouse on a regular basis. If money is tight, try taking a walk together, going to a dollar movie, or even to a drive-in. Spending quality "couple-time" helps to reinforce the special feelings that made you fall in love with each other in the first place.

4. Maintain a commitment to your marriage. This can be especially difficult today, but it's important that you put your marriage first. If you're committed to making your marriage a success, and you know that your partner shares your commitment, there's nothing that the two of you can't accomplish.

5. Agree on money matters early. Amazingly, many couples never discuss money except in the most superficial ways until after they're married. One of the leading causes of arguments in marriages is because of a difference in how money is handled in the couple. Before you walk down the isle, discuss your feelings about things like credit, paying bills and saving money. Talk about how you will pay expenses, and who will handle the money. Finding out after the fact that you have major differences is only going to lead to long term problems.

5. Create rituals and family traditions. Every successful couple has their own private rituals - things they do that has a special meaning just to them. So whether it's getting your spouse coffee every morning, a special touch that means "I love you", or creating couple signals for "Let's get out of here, or "No, I don't want to buy a timeshare for $95,000!" find your own. Remember some of your favorite childhood family traditions, and incorporate them or start new ones in your own couple. Someday, you'll look back on each time as a treasured memory.

7. Love and Respect. No matter what happens outside of your marriage, it's vital that you and your spouse always treat each other with love and respect. There are some simple rules that have worked for couples for the last 80 years that still apply today. They include: Never go to bed angry. Kiss each other every time you come home, or before going out. Say "I love you" every single day. Mind your manners, and say "Please" and "Thank-you". Do something for the one you love every day. Just because. Occasionally write love letters to each other. Laugh at his/her jokes, no matter how bad they are, or how often you've heard them. Don't sweat the little things. Try something new once in a while.

And you'll be one of the lucky few that have a truly happy marriage!

When Should You Marry ?

Since the divorce rate is at an all time high many are asking when and if they should marry? It is interesting that at the beginning of the 20th Century men were in their late twenties before getting married.

In the early part of 1960 half of all girls in the USA were married by their twentieth birthday. Males were about two years older.

The 90's saw many getting married while still in their teen years. This no doubt accounts at least in-part for the high percentage of divorces. The national statistics reveal that teenage marriages are the most unstable with the highest chance of divorce. Many of them marry out of emotional impulse and pre-marital pregnancies which lead to a higher risk of divorce.

At the present time those entering into wedlock are taking longer to decide about marriage. However, some are attempting a trial habitation to see if it might work.

When are you ready for marriage and how do you know if proper preparation has been taken for a successful marriage? There is no absolutely guarantee for success...

There are at least 3 areas to consider in determining if you are properly prepared for a life long commitment.

Maturity

You should be mature enough to take on the personal responsibilities of a family. Granted this may be some what subjective, but there are ways to measure the maturity level. If you are not sure what those responsibilities are, or even if you do know, it is advantageous to speak with someone who is well capable of addressing the responsibilities of a couple.

Studies have indicated that the best age to enter marriage is early to mid-twenties. This is the age that most men are either out of school or have performed their military service to their country. Likewise the women are out of school by this age as well. At this particular time most have had their share of dating experiences and desire to begin the process of settling down.

At the same time, however, chronological age is not necessarily proof that one is mature. Women seem to mature earlier than men, but that is not always the case. There are many factors in a persons background that either enhances their maturity or retard it. Therefore, each person has to be considered separatley.

You should, however, evaluate not only your own life, but your potential partner as well. Do not leave the evaluation process up to someone else. You do the evaluating. You may want someone's advice, but you must have your eyes "wide open".

What are you looking for in your evaluation? Start with the reasoning behind getting married. Why do you both want to be married? It is not enough to say that you love each other. Wouldn't you assume that most people who are now divorced would have said they loved each other in the beginning? Not all of course, but most "fall" in love and get married.

Look deeper than the love aspect! Are there clues of immaturity such as: wanting to be out of the parent's authority; desiring a sexual relationship; escaping educational responsibilities; etc. These may be good reasons for marriage, but more often than not, they are poor reasons.

The emotional aspect of love is very fickle. It comes and goes, so look for intellectual reasons for getting married. Do you both complement one another with your strengths and weaknesses? Do you both have the same type of objectives in life? Do you enjoy participating in similar events?

Educational

Have you both completed your education? This is a judgment call whether you should have it completed prior to marriage. It may be beneficial to have it completed so you are able to focus on your studies and extra-curricular activities.

There also may be less resentment if both partners have their education completed. Many times the wife drops out of college to put her husband through school, then, she never gets back to her own educational goals. Once the dust settles (her husband is in his career, children are all in school) regret, anger, and resentment begin to knock on the wife's heart.

Financial

Not everyone is able to be financially independent at the time of marriage, but financial stability is a good place to begin a marriage. If you are deeply indebt or do not have a reliable occupation it may behoove you to postpone the ceremony a bit longer.

Can 'Mixed' Marriages Work ?

As society becomes culturally intertwined, it becomes more common to see marriages between individuals of different racial background. How are these marriages surviving and even flourishing?

In some countries the prejudice and stigma are so great that couples who become involved romantically with an individual of another race may find the pressures of family and society become too overwhelming to resist. In other countries, a general level of tolerance leads many to consider mixed relationships, but an undercurrent of bias deters them from marriage. It is a fortunate group who find the level of acceptance in their society means that their marriage is rarely, if ever, marred by prejudicial onlookers.

It is a sad fact that intolerance has become part of human nature, but individuals who have found love in a different race have fought the challenges for hundreds of years. What does that mean for their marriages?

To comment on it from a purely secular viewpoint, it might be said that the fight to become a couple in the first place may well help a couple to create a bond together that is not easily broken by outside influence.

A couple who can outwardly show their abilities to see beyond the superficial may be better able to hazard the storms of marriage.

Is a mixed couple's marriage stronger than a non-mixed couple? NO. Many couples face trials which create a similar sense of 'us-against-the-world' - an outlook that may sound negative but which creates an environment of trust and reliability between the couple. It also fosters a feeling that they have fought together and can take on any obstacle as a team.

With the world becoming what some have termed a 'melting pot' of cultures, many couples find that aside from their outer appearance they share much of the same cultural background.

In marriages where there is a clear difference of traditions it could be noted that to marry outside of one's race would indicate a flexibility and strength of character which would smooth out many of the cultural distinctions. Perhaps a genuine interest and love of their mate's culture could also attribute to a healthy marriage.

Whatever the situation, in today's society, as many cultures are beginning to adopt a less respected view of marriage, it is wonderful to see couples who outwardly, or even privately, are able to stick together as one and fight off the intrusions that so often pull marriages apart.

Is Your Marriage on Auto-Pilot ?

Is Your Marriage on Auto-Pilot ?

Ah...remember that honeymoon phase when you first fell in love? You may have even been in the lust and infatuation stage before you even realized you were in love. You felt giddy, smitten, and were walking on air. Your heart went pitter patter and your breath was shallow whenever you were around your honeypie. You were busy with work and responsibilities, but you would always catch up later. At this phase you wanted to spend all your waking hours with your sweetheart.

But then came love, then came marriage, then came Junior in the baby carriage. Suddenly, there are bills to pay; places to go, repairs to do and you’re just tired all the time. You relent with a sigh, “so this is marriage?!”

Whether you’ve been married 12 months or 12 years, it doesn’t have to mean the honeymoon is over. Think back to the effort you made initially when you were wooing your betrothed. You get what you give. If you give a humdrum effort day in and day out, that’s what you’ll get in return. If you give romance and spark, guess what? You’ll get the same in return?

Forgot how to do that? No worries. Here are ten suggestions to help jump start your hibernating marriage.

1. Drop off a cup of coffee and an apple to your spouse at work. Don’t stay; just say you appreciate the hard work and thought he/she might be ready for a break.

2. Place a note in the sole of his/her shoes “You’re my heart and sole”

3. When your spouse gets home from work have a picnic all prepared – in the bedroom. Picnic blanket spread across the bed, beverage of choice, shrimp, strawberries, bread. If the kids are around, have a pizza waiting for them and tell them that the parents need some time to discuss some things.

4. If you live in a winter climate, take your wife’s/husband’s clothes (assuming it’s not a suit or dress) and put them in the dryer first thing in the morning. Getting dressed into warm snuggly clothes in the dead of winter is a real treat.

5. Leave a love note in the purse or briefcase.

6. Participate in one of your spouse’s activities that you’d rather not. Go fishing with him, go to a play with her, walk the golf course with him, take her shopping – just try it. Even if it’s not the time of your life, the fact that you wanted to do something he/she enjoys will speak volumes.

7. Go for a walk and for gosh sakes, hold hands!

8. Have some sexy pictures taken of you. Even if you use your own digital camera in your spouse’s favorite outfit (or lack of one!) Most cameras are equipped with self timers. Leave it in the lunch box or have it waiting in the car with a note “meet me for lunch at noon at xxx”

9. Switch chores. If you don’t normally take out the trash, do it this week. If it’s usually her job to do laundry, just do a load.

10. Compliment your spouse often. Don’t say it if you don’t mean it, but there is always something positive you can say. Whether, “I appreciate you working hard every day for us.” Or “That dinner was fantastic” “That outfit makes you look really hot.” Whatever – so long as you’re sincere and you keep them coming!

Hopefully this has given you a start. Please give it some thought. Your random acts of kindness need not be time consuming nor expensive. Just remember, a little goes a long, long way!

10 Ways to Build Happy, Lasting Relationships

1. The Power of Touch
When a child is ill, doctors will tell you that it is proven that a simple, loving
touch of a parent can quickly pull the child through a crisis. It is the same for
relationships. Playing with your mate’s hair, rubbing their hand, a soft kiss on
the neck, a soft pat on the leg or giving a gentle back rub will make a huge
difference in how your mate responds to you. When was the last time you
walked up to your mate for no reason and without saying a word, affectionately
placed a kiss on their neck? This is not in a sexual way, but an affectionate
way. There is a difference. The next time the two of you are sitting in the car,
at the grocery story, or standing in line at the theater, quietly reach over and
take their hand. Do not be surprised if you get a strange look of curiosity the
first time!

2. Schedule Time
Spending quality time together is crucial. This time can be with friends, dining
out, attending a sporting event, or cuddling together while watching a favorite
movie. The activity is not what is important but the fact that you are together,
doing something that you both enjoy. People have extremely busy schedules
and between work, family, the home, errands, and everything else going on,
finding time for your mate can be difficult. Just as you would schedule a
meeting on your calendar, show some courtesy in the relationship by
scheduling time with each other. Once the plan is in place, no backing out
unless you have some life and death emergency.

3. No Debates
If you know that you and your mate have proven differences in opinion on
certain subjects, avoid those subjects. As an example, if you are a Republican
and your mate is a Democrat, politics should probably be avoided. As the two
of you identify new topics that could cause a debate session, stop the
conversation before it even gets started.

4. Surprise
If you and your mate have scheduled some time for a Friday night dinner, put
together a surprise instead. For example, if your mate loves professional
wrestling, buy some tickets near the front or if they like concerts, purchase the
tickets ahead of time, getting the best seats possible. When Friday night
comes around, insist on driving and head toward the location where the event
is taking place. When asked where you are going, simply answer, “I have a
surprise for you. I know you love professional wrestling so I purchased two
great seats for tonight’s performance,” or “I know we had planned on going to
dinner, but I wanted to surprise you with something special. I purchased
tickets to see one of your favorite groups in concert.” The idea of you getting
the tickets for something THEY like and then keeping it as a special surprise will
touch the heart!

5. Re-establish Old Traditions
If you and your mate had a tradition of some kind when you first got together,
dust it off and breathe life back into it. Perhaps you met after work on Friday
at the local pub for a drink, washed your cars together every Saturday
morning, or attended church together on Sunday. Whatever it was, re-
establish the tradition.

6. Filler Talk
If you are married, especially with children, break out of the habit of talking
about nothing. Many times, families will be sitting around the dinner table and
the conversation consists of, “Do you like your carrots?”, or “I wonder what is
on TV tonight?” Instead, change your strategy to include real questions,
showing real interest. Replace the normal, “Did you have a good day at work?”
with “Tell me what you did at work today.” Even if you do not understand
everything being said, listen with interest. It is not that you are so much
interested in the work, but your mate’s life.

7. Dinner Party
Start a new tradition of hosting a dinner party every other month or two and
inviting several of you and your mate’s friends. Set up board games that
everyone will enjoy, have some light and lively music playing, and plan to have
a blast. Spending time with friends in this kind of setting is a great way to
reduce stress. When stress is low, couples get along better. This is a
wonderful way to interact with each other’s friends as a couple.

8. Lighten Up
Often when couples have gone through or are going through some bumpy spots
in their relationship, things tend to get serious. It could be that there is a
tremendous amount of tension or perhaps they are not sure what to say.
Regardless of the reason, learn to lighten up. Do not take every comment,
glance, or movement as a serious problem. If your mate makes a mistake,
which you both will, let it go, or if appropriate, laugh about it. If you make a
mistake, do not be afraid to poke fun at yourself. This will automatically start
the process of tension breaking.

9. Happy Birthday
As people grow older, in general, birthdays become less celebrated. Gifts are
quickly given, meals eaten, and it is over. For your mate’s next birthday, take
some time to plan something very special. Make this a true celebration of their
life as a way of showing your love and appreciation. Every person, even adults,
like attention and love to be appreciated. Whether a surprise party or not, your
mate will be impressed that you went to all the effort just for them.

10. A Night of Passion
Intimacy and passion in relationships is not only important but also healthy.
Couples need to enjoy being together in an intimate way. When relationships
are troubled, the last thing either person wants is to be sexual or passionate
with each other. However, this is a part of the healing and rebuilding of the
relationship and although it might be awkward in the beginning, it is crucial.
Make your intimate time together special. Surprise your mate with a warm
bubble bath, lighted candles, soft music, and a bottle of wine, or reserve a nice
romantic evening at a local hotel to include a wonderful candlelit dinner, fine
wine, and a beautiful room.

How to start an online dating service business

How to start an online dating service business

Making new friends and finding the person of your dreams is not as easy as it used to be. With the busy daily life of singles in the US, there is very little time for socialization outside of work.

Why is online dating service considered a profitable business? Here are some of the facts:

* Almost .5% of the US population is either single or divorced. The largest online dating websites have over 700,000 personal advertisements and profiles all enthusiastically searching for a partner. There have been thousands of marriages resulting from internet introduction.

* Internet-based dating services receive millions of dollars in revenue every year. There is guaranteed money in this business.

* Basic emotional needs are the easiest to sell. These needs include dating, love and romance. You will be paid by marketing romance to the increasing numbers of single web surfers.

If you are thinking of starting up your own online dating service business, here are four important factors to consider:

1) Online dating business plan: Organizing a plan would allow you to operate the business and ensure your company’s growth. A business plan is crucial for organizing and seeking potential clients. A business with development potential is always a safer investment than a business that settles for breaking even.

A plan would provide you with a clear view of your business’ future. It summarizes the company’s goals and provides your future staff with information that is vital to the daily function of your company.

2) Website management method. You should plan for a presentable and quality web design or hire the best web designer in the industry. Determine which web hosting service is the best and enroll in it. For your website to attract thousands of visitors, you would need web hosting that could accommodate all the traffic and database of your members. You could also consider being your own web host that would enable you to manage your own server.

3) Marketing and advertising. The online dating service would require a large amount of advertising money to be able to set your company apart from the thousands of other dating services in existence.

4) Financial plan. Organizing your financial plan would help you establish the budget necessary to cover your daily operating costs. This plan would also help your company to develop long-term financial goals.

If you have successfully achieved all of your plans necessary for the company to run, you could now start your own online dating service business and give the singles a chance to meet their dream partner.

The Ins and Outs of Online Dating

The Ins and Outs of Online Dating

Dating online is a new medium and some studies have had higher success rates in getting that first date than the conventional method of going to a public place and meeting someone. The reason why there is a higher rate is because people only meet others who share the same interests.

This new method of interaction and hopefully meeting the right person has its advantages and disadvantages.

1.Security

The advantage of personally signing up on an online dating service is that the person can meet many people without the risk of revealing one’s personal information. The only time this happens is when the searcher does it voluntarily to the potential partner.

The disadvantage here is that information, even in general, can be fabricated. Some sites don’t have a place on the page to show the picture of the person and even it is available, people don’t put up a picture and can pretend to be someone and prey on an innocent victim.

2.Affordable

By paying a small membership fee and being a member of an online dating service, a person will be able to save money by quickly finding someone who shares the same interest.

The disadvantage here is that though the person may save some money in the short term, it does not guarantee the date will work and the person has to search again. The match making service simply delayed the inevitable spending more money rather than saving.

3.Broad Market

Dating online allows one to meet people from other cities or even other states. It helps a person make new friends and even build up a network that can even be used for other functions such as business.

The disadvantage of finding love through online dating is that given the distance, one of the people has to make the important decision to relocate to be together leaving friends and family behind.

4. Customer base

The dating service helps people who have a hard time finding the ideal person in life by having a huge membership base giving a wide range of people to choose from.

The problem here is that eventually the number of people will decrease since other matches will happen. If one does not act quickly, one will miss the right person to someone else.

Online dating can be fun, whether to meet new friends or meet that potential partner. This match making service using the computer is for young and old just remember there are no guarantees. It is still a gamble one must take in reaching that goal of finding a soul mate.

How Your Profile Will Benefit Your Online Dating Success

Profile 101: Why Should Somebody Go to All the Trouble of Creating a Profile ?

Online dating is so prevalent nowadays. Every year, more and more people go online just for the dating services. In fact, almost 40 million people in the United States were reported to have used online dating services in 2003.

Membership is increasing at an unprecedented rate.

However, there are still people who complain about not getting the desired result they had been looking for in online dating services.

The reason? It’s in the profile. Many people don’t realize it’s their profile that really matters.

Why ? Here’s why profiles are important for successful online dating.

1. First impressions last

Even if it sounds like a cliché it is true that first impressions really matter a lot. they often create a lasting impression on the other person. Therefore, it’s best for you to project a good first impression by creating a profile worth reading.

2. It’s the only solid information one can get hold of.

Information stated in somebody’s profiles is the only solid data the other person can get hold of. So it’s best for you to give your prospective date as much information about yourself as possible, without endangering yourself.

3. Photographs can speak a thousand words but are not enough.

Contrary to most popular beliefs, pictures alone cannot reveal an individual’s personality. It may give some information, but lacks that which most people are trying to find out.

4. Great profiles improve the chances of meeting somebody who is really interested in you.

If a person likes you based on the profiles given, chances are they'll be compatible because they can relate to your interests.

Hence, finding someone based on compatibility all depends on your profile.

So, for people to get positive results in online dating, it’s best to maintain a profile that sounds and looks as good as the person who owns it. If this is the case, then, online dating can give a person some things more than the gratifications he or she longs to have.

Online Dating Services Sites

Online Dating Services Sites: Which is Which ?

Online dating services are thriving after almost 10 years. Some people might succeed in finding Mr. or Ms. Right through them. Some might not. But for those who still have not lost hope in finding that special person through these services, here are the top online dating services.

MatchMaker.com, with a monthly rate of $8.33 to $19.95, has an approximate number of 8 million members and communication is carried out either through IM or e-mail. Reviews have it that MatchMaker is one of the best online services. It boasts of two major features: a.) user-friendly site and b.) One of the most comprehensive profiles online. The profiling consists of an extensive questionnaire and an optional essay.

YahooPersonals has a monthly rate of $7.50 to $19.95 and has more than 5 million members. IM and e-mail is the form of communication with this online dating service. It is loved for its refined search engine. Categories such as living area, age and interests can be used to improve the search process. YahooPersonals has this Premier version that offers a more in-depth profile for those in search of more than casual dating.

DreamDates.com has a monthly rate of $9 to $24.95 and 3.5 million members. Members' interaction is supported by chat, IM, e-mail, and voice. DreamDates offers a better communication option of allowing members to talk to each other. It is available in two versions - a Romance membership or an Erotica option.

AmericanSingles.com is available for the monthly fee of $16.50 to 24.95. Its more than 10 million members communicate through IM, e-mail or chat. If you are interested in allowing communication with a person who has shown interest, but are not totally at ease with them, with American Singles, you can remain anonymous. This service has a "Tease" message feature, which is a fun and non-committal way of getting in touch with members you find attractive.

Match.com has a monthly membership fee of $9.95 - 24.95. Its 15 million members communicate through e-mail or chat. It takes pride in its user-friendly website that offers side-by-side comparisons of each others requirements to facilitate the "search."

With all this information about various online dating services sites, your search for "the one" will be made easier. Good luck!

Searching for Ms. Right online

Searching for Ms. Right online

Finally, after several failed match-ups in your online dates, you've met somebody that you think is the "Ms. Right" for you. She agreed to have a date with you. This is your chance to show "Ms. Right" that you are "Mr. Right" for her.

Here are some ways to guide you on your date to make her think you are the perfect one for her.

1. Take a Shower or Bath.

You want "Ms. Right" to see the best in you? Then don't come unshaven, dirty-looking, and smelling. Women will instantly judge you based on your hygiene. After all, you wouldn't want to see her looking dirty and unkempt would you?

2. Arrive on Time.

Arriving late will make her feel umimportant and hurt.

3. Give "Ms. Right" a Gift.

On your first date, bring her a gift that would speak well of your intentions. It should show not only that you are generous, but that she is special to you. But don't go overboard. She might think that you are buying her love.

4. Prove that you are a gentleman.

Open the doors for her. Pull her chair out when you are in a restaurant or café.

5. Compliment Her.

Give her compliments, but do not be insincere. She will sense if you don't mean what you say. If she looks nice in that red dress, tell her. If she looks radiant and pretty on your date, tell her.

6. Make conversation with her.

Try to converse with her, but do not let yourself hog the conversation. Make an otherwise nervous and exciting situation into a lively one by chatting. Hear what she wants to say.

8. Pay for your bill.
It is just gentlemanly to pay for the date. However, if she insists that you go "dutch", then agree graciously. To avoid an awkward situation, imply to her earlier that you are planning to pay for the date.

9. Follow-up Calls.

If you really think she is "Ms. Right" for you and you need to date her again, say that you intend calling her again. But, if you feel she is not the right one for you, don't make a promise and then have to break it.

Finding "Ms. Right" might be easy, but you have to show that you are "Mr. Right" for her. With these tips, you can never go wrong.

Adult Dating Services

Mature Fun from Adult Dating Services

Modern technology gave new dimension to the ever elusive adult dating scene. Now, adult dating services abound for those who dislike the nitty-gritty and dating "procedures and stages". These dating services also make less confident people more assertive through the initial "faceless" communication.

They offer fun activities for those looking for friends, activity partners, and lovers.

Here are a few of the best sites in the field of adult dating.

American Singles
It claims to jumpstart one's love life. It is one of those adult dating services that allow the posting of a profile and uploading a picture. Matchmaking is made through setting up its members with those who match their profiles.

eHarmony
It is another adult dating service that caters to those who are searching for friends and life partners. It takes pride on its innovative profile matching system. It boasts of its 29 key dimensions that predict in-depth compatibility and more successful relationships.

Venusrooms.com
It is also an adult dating service that claims its being one of the world's leading online dating sites. It is for those who live in UK and USA. It is also a free. Its features include dating profiles with picture galleries, video dating profiles, an online dating chat program, friends list, adult dating ratings, e-mail alerts, etc.

Tickle
It is an adult dating service that uses personality and IQ tests to facilitate the matchmaking process. Members of Tickle are often with college education, professional and those who reside in large cities.

Are you ready for adult fun or simply looking for less teeny-bopper kind of dating style? Then, choose from the wide array of adult dating services.

Who knows. . .one could even deliver your Mr. and Ms. Right to your door step.

Online Dating Services

Why are Online Dating Services so Popular ?

History has it that online dating services were once considered to be a ghoulish idea. Many people feel it is an unsafe way to find a date.

However, as information technology increasess, many people are more at ease in using online dating services to find the love of their life.

Most people also find online dating services a viable means of getting more dates than they do in other place. In fact, statistics show that 52% of the Americans say they have a better chance of meeting and dating other people through online dating services than at a single’s bar.

Moreover, according to the Ipsos-Reid Poll, four out of ten people who were interviewed think that it is better to instigate a relationship through an online dating service and that they have a greater chance of success, than those who started in the single’s bar.
So, for people who still want to know the benefits of online dating services, here’s a list of the known reasons why people utilize online dating services.

1. Variety of choices

Many people are finding online dating services offer a variety of choices. In fact, there are more singles who are involved in online dating services than most people have thought. Hence, people get to review a lot of profiles before eventually choosing one.

Moreover, most people contend that they find the profiles very useful before they start to date the person.

2. Secrecy

You may remain anonymous for as long as you want to. That is why loading pictures on your profile is not mandatory. You even have complete control on whether or not you want to disclose your e-mail address, age, or any other personal information. Thus, you can freely browse on the different people without being known yourself.

3. Security

Members of online dating services have their personal information secured. You can be assured that no information will be disclosed to other people without your consent.

Moreover, if a certain member of an online dating service should cause trouble, you can immediately request the online dating service to block the person or revoke the membership.

Indeed, online dating services are the modern world’s new way of getting dates and eventually love.

Online Dating : Safety Really Counts

Online Dating: Safety Really Counts

Since its inception, online dating services have gained remarkable popularity in the Internet world. In fact, almost 40 million American singles try online dating sites to find romance.

However it is still best to observe safety measure when dating online. With millions of strangers out there, an individual will never know if the person they are about to date is 100% harmless.

Here are some safe dating tips for people who are into online dating :

1. Anonymity

Even if you're already eyeing the profile of somebody that you particularly like, it is still best not to divulge any personal information like e-mail address, home address, contact number, or any pertinent information that would reveal your true identity.

2. Honest profiles

Being honest does not necessarily mean revealing personal information immediately. Being honest with one’s profile means simply being true to one’s self. It’s best not to create a dishonest profile or to display a fake picture. At the least this will disappoint others and waste their time if they find you are not what they wanted after all.

3. Pressure measure

It would be safer not to meet somebody who pressures you to meet immediately. It could mean a lot of things that might not be favorable to you.

4. Inconsistency

Be wary of people who are inconsistent with their profile information. They may not be telling the truth about themselves.

5. If somebody seems to be depressed, it would be better to stop all contacting with them.

Uneasiness is a good indicator if something is likely to get out of hand. If you feel uneasy or uncomfortable about any relationship, stop communication immediately.

All of these things boil down to the fact that safety on online dating starts with you. Set certain safety rules for yourself and stick to them. No-one can give you better protection than you yourself.

How To Flirt Online Dating

Mastering the Art of Online Flirting

Online dating is an excellent way of meeting new people and expanding your dating pool. For some, it is also a great way for getting back on the dating scene again. Though online dating sites are often stereotyped as an arena for the desperate, they are actually an effective venue for singles who are interested in meeting others.

Most people who engage in online dating lead busy lives and do not have time to indulge in social activities. Others turn to online dating to widen their social horizons or simply to have a fresh start. But whatever their reasons, online dating is a proven way for social renewal.

Dating, in general goes hand in hand with flirting. For those who wonder if they can master the art of online flirting, of course you can! All you need to do is learn all about the different online flirting approaches, and you are on your way to a successful online dating experience.

Online dating is usually carried on through live chat or electronic mail. In your communications, always keep it short, simple and sweet. Stick to light-hearted and upbeat tones in your conversation. This is proven to attract online dates. Use easy to answer questions, and in return make your responses simple.

In writing correspondence, always use screen names. Emoticons may also be annoying when overdone or may sound too giddy or insincere.

Use humor as your ally, but of course remember to use it in good taste. Deliver with confidence; dates will definitely pick that up.

Compliment your date. Everyone likes to be complimented. The best compliments are those with the element of surprise. Keep your compliments sincere, honest, and genuine. And when you receive a compliment yourself, the best response would be to simply say, "Thank You!"

A great online flirting tip is to use "enticers" in your email communications. You may want to try the tried and
tested pick-up lines or devise your own. Try to keep them light and inviting so as not to sound predatory. The key is to sound cute, interested and above all sincere. This will help ignite spark in your emails and will surely get you that much-coveted first date.

Simply hold on to these simple to follow steps and helpful online flirting tips, and with proper timing, you are off to a being a top online flirter.

Good luck!

What Kinds of Online Dating Services Are Available

What Kinds of Online Dating Services Are Available & Online Dating Site Reviews

Nowadays, there are so many types of online dating services to choose from that it's so easy to get confused about the various sites. But if you are serious about finding your potential soulmate take the time to find out about the various services that are being offered online. This way, you can choose exactly the type of service that works for them. This will increase your chances of finding your potential soulmate.

One of the most popular services available are online dating services that match your profile with other members of the same interests and specifications.

Here are some of the most highly rated online dating services.

Yahoo Personals - For a monthly subscription payment of $7.50-$19.95, (they offer premium services). Members can create their own profiles with pictures included, that they can then share with this online community of date seekers. Members can also communicate via Email, and IM. Yahoo personals have over 5 million members, and is one of the leading contenders in its field.

Dream Date - Has a membership of over 3.5 million. One of the exciting features that this online dating service offers is that its members can communicate with each other through voice chat. It also has text messaging, IM, and offers Email correspondence. In addition to the normal romance affiliation, it also offers its members an erotica section. All of these services are offered for the cost of $9.00-$24.95 a month.

Perfect Match - Perfect match is an online dating site created by the leading online dating authorities who pioneered kiss.com, which is one of the original online dating services. It has over 2 million members. It offers a scientific inspired approach to match making.

LoveAccess.com - This site is a step up from other online dating services because it offers its members the choice to include a video message in their profiles! Members can take advantage of its text messaging, Email, and IM. The best thing of all is that all of these services are offered for free. Individuals who choose to sign up must create a basic profile, and write a couple of essays. First, an essay that describes themselves, and another one that describe the type of person they want to meet. Those who want to avail of their more advanced features can upgrade their account. Upgraded accounts offer: IM that includes a video webcam, initiating conversations, and an access to same sex and straight profiles.

Match.com - This online dating site is a must for all serious online daters! This is top on almost all of the online dating reviewers' list. It has a high success rate of matching people together. This site offers individuals a free trial that allow casual viewers 3 days of full access; but it does require participants to show a credit card before they can avail of the free access. Members are asked to create a profile, and post an add that includes one or two pictures. They can also add video greetings, and look through the profiles using their mobile phones. This site also provides a column that offers relationship advice, dating tips and so much more! This site has over 15 million members in 32 different countries.

Another way for singles to meet people on the internet is to post personals. This is different from a Yahoo personal ad, in a sense that individuals don't need to join a community. These 'personals' appear everywhere. Most online lifestyle magazines have a personals section included in their site. These are just pop-ups that randomly appear on the side of the page. It displays an individual's profile, picture, and contact number. If any person who happens to be browsing through that online magazine happen to be interested, all he or she would have to do is click on the personal. Then they'd find out more information about that person. The majority of mainstream online magazines that can be found on the net carry a 'personals' section on their website.

There are so many online dating services that are available nowadays, that individuals who are looking to partake now have a choice of selecting just the right online dating service that works for them, and provides for their needs. Thanks to the endless demand of people who embrace this new trend in dating. Now individuals who are looking to find love have a better chance than ever!

Dating Tests

Are Online Dating Tests Reliable?

Nowadays, more and more people are finding online dating a remarkable way of gaining new friends, companions, or partners. As it grows at breakneck speed, the online dating industry has devised a service for their members and even non-members. Many online dating sites are offering the so-called online dating test.

Most of these online dating tests are about personality and compatibility. They range from the simple to most complex questions but all are designed to give people the results that might help them with their online dates.

However, even if it gained tremendous popularity, many experts contend that online dating tests are not that reliable. In fact, many psychologists contend that the reliability and efficiency of online dating tests is less than 50%. So when the results of an online dating test concerning eg, compatibility, state that two people are compatible, chances are it's only half true.

Why Were These Tests Created?

Because of the unprecedented growth of online dating and the increasing demand for matchmaking, most of the online dating industry has come up with the concept of online dating tests in order to help with a better match. Hence, different online dating tests like personality and compatibility tests have been invented.

Psychologists have asserted that when a person tried to access online dating tests and answered some questions, chances are, his or her answers will be affected by many outside factors such as feelings, attitude, mood, and context. This means that there are possibilities wherein a person may have two different answers on one given question if it was asked on two different occasions.

For example, if an individual completes a dating test while feeling low or depressed, their results will be different from when they completed the same test while in a happy mood.

Some psychologists explain that the reason for these discrepancies is that the Internet-based online dating test are only through self-evaluation and are not guided by reliable psychological assessment, which usually are done in clinical conditions.

Therefore, for people who are fond of answering online dating tests, there’s no problem. The problem arises if it will be the basis of something serious like marriage.

So these tests, while amusing, should never be used by people in making decisions about love and relationship.

Bad Date Survival Tips

Bad Date Survival Tips


Occasionally, a bad date happens to one person at a certain point in his or her life. One should do some assessment before writing off the person for life. No sparks at all? Too nervous to open any topic? Is he or she being rude? Here are some things that you can do.

How to deal with a bad date

1. If you are feeling too nervous, opt for a date over coffee. You will have less time fidgeting due too overnervousness since after finishing your coffee you can easily bid your date a quick "ta-ta".

2. There is no excuse for a date who is obnoxious and rude. Walk away Renee.

3. You and your date are not on the same wavelength? Endure the date, maintain your composure and leave politely. If your date asks for an extension, say an after meal drink, you can always politely (again) say no.

4. If you unintentionally insult your date, simply apologize then move on. If your insult is not that severe, your date might just forgive and forget.

5. Never provide entertainment at your own expense. Humor is cool, putting yourself down is not. It is not worth it to make your self feel uncomfortable trying to impress your date.

How to move on?

1. Don't punish yourself for a date that went horrible, commend yourself for getting through it. Shrug it off, learn from it and then put it out of your mind.

2. Share the details with a friend. This way you can treat it as more of a joke than something that will haunt you for life.

3. Get occupied with other activities so you can forgive yourself and forget about the bad date. Exercising, eating something sweet or watching a movie will make the bad vibes go away sooner than you expect.

4. Honesty and kindness are a good combination when it comes to turning down a bad date who would like a second round. Say something a bit blunt but peppered with some praise -- is that an oxymoron?

5. Now, if you think that the person still deserves a second chance, by all means, give him or her the second try. You can always laugh the bad date incident away when you are more comfortable with each other.

Dating do's and don'ts

Dating do's and don'ts

Some Tips on How to Play Your Cards in the Dating Game

Those who are single and searching can almost never get enough of searching the Internet for how to make the best out of their first, second, third or umpteenth date. However, these few tips will bring you close to becoming one ideal date or someone who can battle it out with any kind of date, good or bad.

1. Don't ask these stupid questions.

How's the date going?
Why are you quiet?
Did I do anything wrong?

If you find yourself thinking along these lines, assume the date is not going well.

2. Do get active. Consider a concert, art exhibit or a street fair. Or, if you are both into more physical activities like rollerblading and ice skating, by all means, do so. However, if you are doing anything that will make you sweat, don't forget to bring your deodorant.

3. Don't wear anything suggestive or inappropriate. You don't want to distract your date with your plunging neckline or micro-mini skirt. Save those outfits for your 3rd or 4th date. Prioritize comfort when it comes to your clothing. Anything too fancy will make your date think that you're trying too hard or are overly high-maintenance, which are both big turn-offs.

4. Don't open any conversation regarding your past relationship or any topic related to sex. Spouting anything about marriage is a big no-no too.

5. Don't ogle other people.

Eyeballing other men or women while on a date is utterly disrespectful. How would you feel if your date ogled others?

6. Do keep your cell phone turned off.

Nothing is be more annoying than a person attending to phone calls every other minute while on a date.

7. Do leave politely.

If your date is being rude or obnoxious, you have the right to leave. However, do it politely. You should not stoop to his or her level.

Now you are less clueless when it comes to the dating game. Good luck!

Learn Blind Date Tips

Don't Be Blind - Learn Blind Date Tips

There is no need for a person swear off of blind dates forever just because one didn’t work out well. Here are some tips on how to prevent a blind date from becoming a disaster.

1. Snoop around a bit.

Don't go to a blind date without having any hint as to what kind of person you are about to entrust your one evening with. A little bit of planning will go a long way toward having a successful blind date. Talk on the phone. Email each other. Do those mild background checking techniques that will make you less worried when the actual date happens.

2. Go for a casual date. It is never cool to plan like you are about to make a marriage proposal when you are just about to go to a blind date. A cozy café or park that allows lots of conversation and exchange of ideas will do the trick.

3. First impressions last forever. Blind dates should be informal. However, that doesn't mean you are allowed to show up in your gym clothes. Overdressing is overkill, too. Women, any suggestive outfit should be saved for your fifth or sixth date if you click. Men, keep your bowties and suits reserved for your wedding. It would be wise to show your personal taste as long as you strike a good balance.

4. Know your manners.

A blind date could still go bad no matter how you prepare for it. It is just the way of nature telling you that the chemistry is just not there. But the lack of spark during the first date does not necessarily translate to never clicking with the person. It could be that it is just a bad day for the two of you or the weather is simply not cooperating. Keeping an open mind will avoid you from sulking about how bad your date went. Don't forget to respect your date as you would like to be respected. Don't be too rigid, have fun.

How to avoid online dating risks

How to avoid online dating risks


Online dating has become a popular service nowadays. In fact, many people worldwide, are members of various online dating services.

While online dating services have benefits, there are some serious drawbacks too. The most important concern is your safety. How can you know whether that otherwise sweet and loving chat mate of yours you meet in an online service is a rapist or stalker?
Like traditional dating, online dating has some risks. To avoid danger, consider the following tips.

1. In your profile, it is good not to include detailed personal information, such as your personal home address, job address, telephone number, or email address. Dating sites, especially the reputable ones, make sure that all their members are safe. Some do it by checking the criminal records of their members, some by automatically deleting any detailed information in your personal profile.

2. It would be good if you know more about the person you just met online before giving him or her any personal information. Take some time in getting to know him or her first before setting up a date.

3. Don't put false information in your profile or a fake photograph. If you want people to be honest with you too, be genuine in your information. Honesty is the best policy. A cliché, yes; but it works in online dating.

4. It might be good to have an email account set up in fee email sites like Yahoo or Hotmail. Give this email address to online users who want to have your email, instead of your main email address. If you don't want a person to contact you again, then at least your main email address is safe and free from his or her emails.

5. Be careful of people who:

- Want to meet up with you instantly and pressure you to do so.

- Bug you to give your personal contact details when they themselves don't want to give you their personal contact information.

- Are not consistent in giving you information about their martial status, age, employment.

- Avoid answering questions that are too personal.

6. If somebody is bothering you already, stop sending him or her messages immediately.

Online dating is fun, but you have to be aware that it also has safety risks as well.

Dating Ideas For the Clueless

Dating Ideas For the Clueless

First dates never cease to be the one of the most thrilling events in one's life. However, dating can become boring if one allows it to be. Here are a few great dating ideas that will make your time interesting.

1. Island Picnic

If you have the moolah, you can always get travel arrangements and head to a deserted island. A simple picnic on a not-so simple island will give your dating life that spark you have been waiting for. This will be very much appreciated by married couples as well.

2. Food Tripping Date

You don't have to spend so much if you only going to fast food chains. But it is a lot more fun to go restaurant-hopping to sample each restaurant's specialties. Don't forget to skip some food before doing this kind of date, or you'll end up overweight.

3. Wine Sampling

This could be more enjoyable if you are in a European country where all sorts of wines abound. However, many private wineries are springing up all over the place. Do your homework and see if you can find a local winery close to your location. Just make sure that you are not alcohol-intolerant to enjoy this dating idea.

4. Learn Something New

Learning a new skill could be handy. Learning a new skill with someone else is a surefire way to conjure an exciting mood during the date.

5. Window Shopping

Who says only women could enjoy this kind of date? Even if it is not a first date, as long as the guy also gets to go to the stores he likes visiting, it could be one fun time for the both of you. Also, it can make you both learn each others preferences when it comes to material things.

6. Truth or Dare Date

Pick a place to go to. Then while heading to that area, you can have fun learning about each other's secrets while playing truth or dare.

7. Sports Date

Go hiking, golfing, mountain-climbing or just about anything that makes you both tick. This is one of those feel-good date ideas since sports induce the production of that body chemical that makes you feel good.

With these ideas, you will never run out of new and enthralling activities to do. Just be creative.

What Questions Should You Be Sure to ask your Online Dating E-friend?

What Questions Should You Be Sure to ask your Online Dating E-friend?

Online dating can be very entertaining and gratifying.

Since its inception, online dating has continuously brought people together even though they may be worlds apart. Online dating makes bridges to connect people together, enjoy each other, and build dreams together.

However, it's not always possible to instantly find somebody with whom to share the rest of your life with.

Online dating is a continuous, systematic process. It entails careful selection of words, pictures, and representations of the person involved in order to get the best results. Moreover, from the time you first find someone you think you could be interested in, remember the process will continue as you both get to know each other through a series of messages, chats, and other forms of communication.

Along with this comes the careful selection of words used and messages conveyed in order to establish natural, free-flowing, yet enlightening conversations. These are not just mere exchange of words and phrases but a way of getting to know each other.

Hence, it is extremely important to know which questions to ask so that you can get a better sense of who the other person is on the other side of the virtual screen.

Here are some of the questions that you should ask your e-friend in order to assess their personality and attitude. These questions will help to provide the necessary information regarding an individual’s personal convictions and preferences.

Those who are involved in online dating just have to keep in mind that when asking these questions, they should make it appear very natural so that they will not sound like they are being confrontational.

In addition, be sure that you are also prepared to answer the same.

1. What is the major error that people make when dating online for the first time?

This question will illustrate some idea about how the other person views the opposite sex. In this way, one could get an insight on the attitude of the other person and his or her personal beliefs on some important matters like dating and relationships.

2. What are you looking for in a guy/girl?

With this question, an individual can get hold of the qualities that the other person is looking for in a companion.

However, one should take note of how the other person tries to answer the question. If the reply is passed off with a joke or some other attempt at humor chances are they have not yet thought about the answer.

3. What is a really successful relationship ?

One could get a good view on how the other person values relationship. It would be better to hear the other person provide an answer regarding how the two persons who are involved in the relationship should work together as they grow.

4. What is your view on online dating services ?

Through this question, a person will be able to know if the other person had some serious negative experience concerning online dating or the other way around. In addition, through the answers of the other person, one could guess if he or she is still willing to consider online dating or not.

5. Did you fail on your last relationship ?

Most people would certainly blame the other person in the relationship. Others blame themselves too much. It would be better to hear some answers like they (the couple) equally share the blame and that it is just time to part ways.

The point in asking these questions is to establish a solid foundation by finding out the kind of personality and attitude the other person has. Keeping communication open is what matters most.

The problem with a lot of people involved in online dating is that most of them do not have any idea how to carry the conversation. They do not know what questions to ask and how to assess the answers that they get.

Remember that asking some reliable questions will give you an edge and you'll be more confident when the time comes to meet in person.

Advice for That First Date

First Impression: Advice for That First Date

First dates are tough situations. Often they can end up being painfully awkward. So what do you do?

Here is a list of dating tips to help you and your date get started on the right foot:

- Try not to meet at each other's houses and try to drive yourself. This is so that if you want to end the date early, you won't be trapped. This also helps avoid the impulse to invite your date in. Also, having your own car means you don't have to worry about your safety; your date won't know where you live and this avoids a date turning into some bad stalking nightmare.

- Try to keep the date as simple as possible. First dates can bring on jittery nerves. Jittery nerves and complicated plans do not mix. Just make it easy and enjoyable.

- Men, try ending the date first and do it politely, though make sure that you show you're interested. This will make you stand out.

- Women, don't wear anything provocative or too sexy. This sounds like an old cliché but first impressions last. Your date won't know anything about you except for how you look and how you behave. He will take you at face value and giving him the wrong impression on what sort of person you are is not something you want to do.

- Try and wear clothing that makes you confident and that you are comfortable wearing. It will be uncomfortable enough without worrying about that tightness around your waist or the itchy necktie.

- Men, try to be specific about where you are going for the date. This will make the entire affair more comfortable and it prepares your date for what to expect and what to wear. Wearing a cocktail dress to a fast food joint is definitely out!

- Ask your date about himself/herself. A healthy interest in getting to know your date is a good sign to show. This means that you want to learn about and think of your date as an interesting person. Remember, the most interesting conversationalists are those who ask about others. Great topics are work, hobbies and sports. Just keep it light and conversational.

- Try not to overdo the perfume or the cologne. Too strong and the scent can be quite distracting. It's very hard to complete an evening out if your date is dazed by the smell.

- Mouthwash is important. Also, brush your teeth and bring a couple of mints if you're eating out.

- And always remember... have fun and be yourself!

Some guidelines to online dating

Some guidelines to online dating

Online dating is fun. You could meet new friends and expand your social circle. Better yet, you might have the match you have been looking for.

If you haven’t tried online dating, there are some things you could keep in mind.

1. Start slow

Try searching on reputable online dating sites. You should look out for someone who is too good to be true on the first time. You should trust your instincts.

2. Protect yourself

You should not reveal your true identity until you feel comfortable about doing so. Do not instantly give your full name, contact numbers, home address, and other details where others can check your profile.

3. Exercise common sense and caution

Practice caution in easily trusting other people. Use common sense in making decisions. Take your time in determining the person’s integrity and motives. Pay attention every time you communicate.

4. Ask for a photo

Ask for a photo of a prospective match, not just because you want to see if they are good-looking. If possible, ask for several photos in different settings: Formal, casual, outdoors, and indoors. In that way you would have an idea of what he or she looks like.

5. Do not just chat via online

An electronic chat would not suffice. Talk via the telephone to assess the social and communication skills of your date. Avoid calling from home. Try calling from a cell phone or a telephone booth. Only when you are completely comfortable should you give your home number.

6. Meet only when you are completely ready

Meet only when you feel secure and ready to meet your online date. Do not feel obliged or persuaded to meet the other person even if he or she insists, if you are not yet ready.

7. Check for danger

If you decided to finally meet, pay close attention to any violent displays, intense frustration, or moves to control or pressure you.

8. Meet only in a secure place

When meeting your date, especially for the first time, meet him or her in a safe place. Tell a friend who your date is and your plans for the night. Set a time during your date where your friend can call you and ask if everything is okay.

It is better to be safe than sorry. Online dating has some perks, but it also has its pitfalls.